How To Enjoy Failing

There’s a saying on my wall that goes like this:

INEPTITUDE

If you can’t learn to do something well, learn to enjoy doing it poorly.

I love it.

If I’m honest with myself, I do everything poorly.

For most of my life, I wouldn’t go near things that interested me because I was sure I wouldn’t do them well.

I was a perfectionist.

But over the years I learned that perfectionism paralyzed me.

I had no fun.

I was a grouch.

So I took the plunge.

For example, cooking. I didn’t know how to boil water. That kept me away from a lot of recipes I wanted to make.

Now I boil water like a pro. Big bubbles, medium bubbles, and small bubbles.

The rest of the recipe, ask me another time.

Take painting. All my life I was told that to be a good painter, you had to learn to draw.

Drawing bores me. Too much attention spent on details. I don’t have the patience.

So I mess with watercolors on the best paper I can afford to buy. The paper produces some really good stuff, and I take the credit.

Writing. The ability to write a novel alludes me. I’ve tried so many times, only to get stuck in the middle with no way out of the maze I’ve created.

But I’m terrific at beginnings. Great characters. Lots of action. Compelling hook.

Anybody out there need an epic first chapter? Talk to me.

The truth is, I live with failure every day, but I don’t let it stop me anymore.

It scares me. I’ll admit that, but I’ve gotten used to being frightened.

I tell myself somewhere in all this mess, there’s a gem in there.

Most likely it will take somebody else to spot it.

Calvin says, “I see it. It’s the bone I buried under the chaos in your study.”

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8 thoughts on “How To Enjoy Failing

  1. “If you can’t learn to do something well, learn to enjoy doing it poorly.”

    Yes! My life is so much easier since I do that…

  2. I love this 🙂 I’ve been paralyzed for most of my life with the fear of doing things badly, even though in the process I already am…… So I might as well do things I enjoy badly.

    It’s a great philosophy. I actually recently started adopting it myself and started a blog called http://writeashittynovel.wordpress.com/ because hey, why not….. 🙂 There’s not too much to it yet, as I’ve just begun, but check it out if you like.

    1. I love the title of your blog, and read your entry. You write well. Martin needs a life. Which one are you going to give him? Something that’s way out of his reach I hope. Keep writing. And thanks for visiting my blog. Come back again. Followers make me happy! – rita

      1. Thanks! Oh I’m going to give him a hell of a life, don’t worry. Follow me back to keep up with it and see where it goes, it’s lonely there all by myself…;)

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